Ever used that phrase: I couldn’t be bothered? That’s the start of learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is when you feel a sense of utter powerlessness – that no matter what you do, it won’t make any difference, so there’s no point even trying. Learned helplessness compounds – the more you experience it, the deeper it …
Don’t fear fear. It’s probably saved your bacon several times. Don’t put a downer on being down either. It’s given you a place to lick your wounds. Negative emotions get a bit of a raw deal. We run away from them because we don’t like to experience the hurt and the pain. And like so …
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The following are ten habits that I follow religiously to help me stay sane in a world which can at times feel quite insane. 1. Read a book. By preference, I read proper books – tangible, tactile books, which you can feel, smell, fold the corners down, with creased spines and a history of fingers …
I’d forgotten what it felt like. The jitteriness, the inability to sit still, combined with an utter paralysis. That breath that you seem to be holding between the top of your chest and the bottom of your throat – afraid to let it go and deflate your lungs. That constant clench in the pit of …
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I wanted to talk about faith today. And how faith can either open you up to all sorts of possibilities, or close you down to the same. And this prompted me when I received a testimonials from a recent client of mine.I’ve copied it here for you….. The change in this gorgeous girl,in just a …
A better understanding of what drives you will… Turn your distress into happiness. Your overwhelm, into a ‘can do’ attitude. Tragedy into opportunity. Stress into motivation. Depression into productive suffering. Anxiety into energy. Powerlessness into empowering. Perfectionism into tolerance. Fear into excitement. Anger and frustration into a calm determination. Those drivers are NOT your values. …
Back in 1954, a renowned sociologist in the States by the name of Leon Festinger managed to infiltrate a cult headed by a woman called Marian Keech. Marian believed that the world would end before dawn on 21st December 1954, yet those who followed her would be saved by a spaceship that would swoop down …
As we address the skills shortage in the industry, and work towards the development of a new fenestration loving generation, don’t forget that old adage, ‘prevention is better than the cure’ – or in other words, make sure you are looking after those who are already in your employ. You want to retain your most …
It would be wise to consider the words of Buddha when navigating the next few months out of this pandemic and into the new order – “Do not dwell on the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” I believe that the monumental struggles that this industry has …
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In this episode of a Mental Health Revolution in the Workplace, Marilyn Hawes explains the impact of the grooming and sexual abuse of her three sons, and how her ‘greatest calling’ came out of the pain is generated. We go on to talk about how the after-effects can seep far and wide into adulthood and …
Read more ““I had planned how to die – I didn’t know how to live.””