You are allowed to be a scared, or worried, or fearful for the future. This is a perfectly normal human reaction to any adversity. When you are actively building up resilience, the strength comes from working through the negative feelings. Acknowledging that they are there. Then taking proactive measures to change them. What you don’t …
I am a staunch fan of social media, but I believe that you should be in control of it, rather than the other way around. Like all aspects of our emotional wellbeing, if we run scared of every possible ‘trigger’ and anxiety inducing aspect of our life, and the world we live in, then we …
“Feeling burdened rather than uplifted by everyday duties is more a mindset than a measure of what is going on in your life.” Kelly McGonigal – The Upside of Stress Daily hassles are a fact of life. You cannot exist in this world without having to deal with banks, bureaucracy, relationships, paying bills, other people, …
Embrace responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings and actions. Own them. This opens up opportunities for changing and improving them. Blaming others and seeking fault may feel like it’ll take the pressure off you. But actually, it just adds to it. Taking responsibility means you can move forwards, rather than getting stuck in the past. …
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“No one is coming to save me; no one is coming to make life right for me; no one is coming to solve my problems. If I don’t do something, nothing is going to get better.” The Six Pillars of Self Esteem,Nathaniel Branden How often have we seen images of defenceless baby birds waiting, their …
I must admit to being a bit of a soap addict. Most storylines focus on the characters lying to each other, hiding the truth of what they’ve done, manipulating their own actions to shift the blame onto others. It’s always uncomfortable, and the characters are always stressed to the eyeballs, trying to maintain the narrative …
“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.” Helen Keller (deaf and blind disability rights activist) When I was a kid, my mother nagged me incessantly about my posture. Stop slouching Kate, put your shoulders back and stand tall. Be proud of who you are!!” Your ‘demeanour’ is …
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How are you perceiving your world? Is your perception the raw reality, or are you filtering it through skewered beliefs, thinking, emotions and language. We get used to looking at the world in a certain way. This way is influenced by your upbringing, your culture, your family, the people who surround you, the words and …
Take a moment to just stop and be aware of your physical sensations in this moment. Think about your jaw – are you gritting your teeth as you read this, are your shoulders hunched up and tense? Have you had any unexplained aches and pains recently, that seem to have no reason behind them? Do …
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Leading up to a minor op on her cataracts, my mother has been instructed to isolate for 10 DAYS in the run up to the operation day. Needless to say the hospital called her six days into that isolation, telling her they had to postpone her date for another six days, which meant that she …